In case anyone else wants a justification from me, here I go.
I have spent HOURS researching the best hair care methods for black hair. I KNOW the hair care is different. Give me a break! I was researching about hair before Adjoa was even home with us.
I opted to do natural hair care for her. Most of the way black salons and many black women care for their hair is extremely damaging.
I use all natural products on her hair and we have a system that works wonderfully for her hair and our family. Part of that system involves an afro style every once in a while.
Anyone who has actually SEEN my child and her hair knows what good condition it's in. I have black people stop me in stores and make comments about how soft her hair is, and what great condition it's in. I have black mothers go out of their way to tell me what a good job I'm doing.
I'm proud of the care we take with her hair. We've experimented and some things work great, others don't.
I only ask 2 things before you pass judgment on my child's hair:
- Look at more than a couple pictures of her. It's obvious we take care of her hair.
- Look at her hair in person.
Oh. And for the record, I have taken her to salons and had black women do her hair a couple times. When braiding, they pulled so hard I was worried about damage to the roots, and they put a bunch of chemicals on her hair that dry out and damage black hair. When I asked about natural products, they just gave me a blank stare. I figured I was better off with my Hair Care Yahoo Group, Youtube vids from women and mothers who care for their hair naturally, and reading books.
Besides that - she's FOUR YEARS OLD, PEOPLE. So what if her hair looks a little tired at the end of a day of playing.
Thanks for the rant. I just had to vent. Stupid things sometimes make me mad.